Renewed Love.

I got home on Friday afternoon and I told Edward as soon as I could that I needed to talk to him. I told him I wasn’t going to start a fight, but there were things I needed to discuss with him because it was driving me crazy. I told him about how I felt insecure because of the things I found. I also told him how I didn’t like for him to be playing around too much with my sister-in-law because it made me very uncomfortable. All in all, our conversation went well. I told him that I think I needed to prioritize our love life more and basically say yes to him more often in bed so that we could both be happier. And it’s true. I keep him happy in bed, he keeps me happy out of bed. I guess men tend to need physical reassurance to feel secure in the relationship.

Anyway, when it comes to my sister-in-law, I felt kind of awkward around her after I had told Edward how I felt about them playing around. Well, on Saturday, she started spraying silly string on him and she does things like that so that he could chase her around and stuff. He did get the bottle and sprayed her and I think that was it, but it was still enough to upset me. He was telling me, “Look how much silly string she has in her hair.” And I was washing the dishes and I just nodded without even looking at him. He could tell that I was upset. I told him I was going upstairs to take a bath. In reality, I just wanted to get away from everyone because I couldn’t stand that she was constantly flirting with him like that. Right away, he came upstairs to see if I was actually mad. I told him, “of course I’m mad.” He tells me, “You see? I didn’t start it. She’s the one that started it.” I told him, “Yes, I know, but you need to ignore her when she does that.” I broke down and told him how insecure I felt because of my weight and because I’m older than her (she’s 20 and I’m 26) and I was scared he would lose interest in me. He sort of got emotional as he explained to me that he loved me so much and that he would be dumb to cheat on me because I’m always there for him and he couldn’t imagine his life without me.

After that conversation, I felt so much better. We even had a rendezvous in the restroom yesterday. I’ve been trying to flirt back with him when he flirts with me. I have been sitting next to him in the couch and cuddling with him, which he told me he likes. In return, he helped me change some diapers and also cleaned the kitchen. He even went outside with the kids without even complaining.

I think if I keep showing more affection towards him he won’t feel the need to see as much porn or whatever.

We have been married for almost 4 years and I want this to work out. We just need to keep working on it, no matter what it takes, because we love each other a lot and I can’t imagine being without him sometimes.

Returning to the topic of my sister-in-law, I don’t know if she really is flirting with him on purpose or not, but it does make me upset that I’m letting her and Lupe live with me for free and the she can’t seem to show some respect towards my marriage and not play around inappropriately with my husband, don’t you think?

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About christyrendon

I'm a 26 year old working mom of two amazing kids, Adan (2 1/2) and Christy (1).. I've been married for 3 years to Edward..

4 responses to “Renewed Love.

  1. Lol gosh we are so a like! While staying with my sister i felt the same way,my husband and sister talk a lot and i was getting jealous. I’d wake up in the middle of the night and they would be talking…I’m like really? you don’t even talk to me that much. Things are so much better now that we are back home. I hope things get better for you!

  2. Omgg that same thing would happen to me! I go to bed earlier and I could hear them laughing downstairs.. I think, though, a lot of it is because of my own insecurities and I was reading too much into it… Well, i hope that is the case lol..

  3. How does your brother feel about this stuff? Does it bother him? She sounds a little immature, but if I was your brother I would have a problem with it as well. Edward does need to just ignore her, or tell her to knock it off and grow up. How come they are living with you? Are they contributing at all?

    • My brother doesn’t seem bothered by it, so I wonder if I’m the one creating a big deal out of nothing? Yea it is sort of immature.. She likes to play around a lot.. And yea I keep reinforcing to Edward that he needs to ignore that.. It’s okay to play around, but I don’t tolerate the inappropriate touching (to me, touching even her arm is inappropriate)..

      My brother and his wife were living with my parents to help out with my dad and they had issues with my mom and I offered for them to stay with us as long as they pitched in with groceries.. Plus they help with babysitting sometimes and my brother gives me rides seeing as how we only have 1 vehicle right now… They’re looking for a house but they haven’t had any luck locking in a deal..

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